Trek Ma

   This summer, for Youth Conference, the youth in my Stake are going on a Pioneer Trek.   Because I have been on Trek before and I know what an amazing experience it is for the youth and the adults, I wanted to go.  But for the most part, the Stake is not using Youth Leaders for Ma's and Pa's and I am a Young Women's Leader.  Darn!
   I went to the Trek Fireside a few months ago.  I was thrilled to find out that one of the Ma's was a single sister and that she would be going as a single Ma--not two single people acting as Ma and Pa together, like I had done several years ago, but she is going to be a single parent on the Trek.  
   After the Fireside, I sought her out to talk to her.  Maria is in her late thirties and she is the Young Women's President in her ward.  We talked for a few minutes and I told her how excited I was that she was going.  I told her I was single and I strained to hold back my tears because she would be representing single sisters.  Our conversation was short, but I have thought a lot about her since that night at the Fireside.  
    Another friend of mine expressed a desire to go on Trek as a Ma to her Stake President a few years ago.  He simple said, "Well, you can't go."  She asked why not and he responded, "Well, you're not married."  She asked him what that had to do with anything.  Bless his heart, he didn't get it.  Marriage is vitally important and we surely want the youth to see successful marriages, but is marriage a  qualifier for service in the Kingdom?  Is marriage a qualifier for righteous living?  
    What about Mary Fielding Smith???   She came across the plains as a SINGLE MOTHER!  In fact, she raised a prophet!  A single mother!  What about all the other single women who crossed the plains?  Women whose husbands refused to come, women whose husbands died on the journey, women who came alone because they loved the Gospel, wanted to follow Christ, and enjoy fellowship with the Saints.  Did they not sacrifice as much as married women who crossed the plains?  Perhaps they sacrificed even more.  
    At Girls Camp, I was able to sneak away from the activities my new found friend, Maria, for a moment to tell her that I had been thinking about her and praying for her.  We had a very tender conversation as we discussed what it meant for her to be going on Trek.  I told her that during Trek, I would be in Chile, visiting a friend.  When it would be especially demanding emotionally, physically, or mentally, I wanted her to know that there would be someone praying for her and thinking about her in Chile.   She will be representing so much for so many single women on this Trek.  
    Many of the youth are being raised by single mothers.  Some of the young women on the Trek will never marry.  Some of them will unfortunately get divorced.  Some of them may marry, but because of choices their husbands will make, they will be required to pull the handcart alone as they bring their children to church or gather them for family prayer, without support from their spouse.  
    We laughed as she said there were a few awkward moments at the Ma/Pa Training overnighter.  A few times the leaders asked everyone to do little activities with their spouse.  Um.  OK.  Awkward!  
      We cried as we knew the hardships that were ahead of her.  We cried as we knew the depth of her role in the eyes of those who would be in her "family" and others on the Trek that would be watching her.  A simple embrace through our tears was given to let her know that I truly understood her emotions, heart ache, fear, faith, and determination.  

    I am so grateful for a Stake Presidency who had the compassion, vision, foresight, and faith to call a single woman to shoulder the task of being a single Ma on Trek.  I was able to catch each of them at YW Camp and barely choke out my gratitude for how much it meant to have them call a single sister to be a Ma.  Thank you for acknowledging those of us who continue to valiantly put our shoulders to the wheel, regardless of our marital status.  
     I wanted to send Maria an email after camp--a member of the Stake YW Presidency said this about her in response to my request for her email address," She is just golden!  There is no other way to describe her."  After talking to her at camp, I already knew this about her.  
      Here is an article I remember reading from the Ensign that I sent to Maria: 

         "Julia and Emily: Sisters in Zion"  Ensign June 2004

             http://www.lds.org/ensign/2004/06/julia-and-emily-sisters-in-zion?lang=eng

    It was written by a descendant of the Willie Handcart Company.  She writes about her ancestors--two sisters who joined the Church in England.  After their parents disowned them, they journeyed together to America and finally to Utah--they were both SINGLE SISTERS.  In fact, one of them penned the hymn beloved by women of the Church, "As Sisters In Zion"  (Hymn #309).

     Whether married or single, as women, we are truly given the errand of angels.  This week on Trek, Maria will be representing single sisters in the church all over the world as she treks with the youth on the plains of Wyoming.  

1. As sisters in Zion, we'll all work together;
The blessings of God on our labors we'll seek.
We'll build up his kingdom with earnest endeavor;
We'll comfort the weary and strengthen the weak.

2. The errand of angels is given to women;
And this is a gift that, as sisters, we claim:
To do whatsoever is gentle and human,
To cheer and to bless in humanity's name.

3. How vast is our purpose, how broad is our mission,
If we but fulfill it in spirit and deed.
Oh, naught but the Spirit's divinest tuition
Can give us the wisdom to truly succeed.

Mary Poppins Bag #2

        I had another Mary Poppins Bag moment last week worthy of sharing.  (see post in November 2012 for explanation of Mary Poppin's Bag).

        Sunday School was canceled due to the World Wide Leadership Training last week.  (FYI and FMBR-for my bragging rights--my nephew is the little boy who is baptized in the video "I'll Go Where You Want Me to Go," if you saw it--if you didn't you can still access it on-line).  Because Sunday School was canceled, Sacrament Meeting was right after Young Women's classes and we had some last minute Girl's Camp stuff to take care, so I was a little late in getting into the chapel for Sacrament Meeting.  Scanning the congregation for a seat, I spotted a partially open bench next to a family with two little boys.  Now there was some strategy involved, because this bench was sandwiched between a family with two little boys the same age in front and a family with four crazy kids in back (I can say crazy, because the mom will not hesitate to agree with that adjective.  They are some of my favorite kids in the ward--they have a lot of great stories. These kids have a mind of their own and they give their parents a run for their money. Well, at least they keep their parents running, whether they get a paycheck or not for parenthood.
          I sat down and soon, another family with four kids sat down next to me.  I knew this was going to be super Sacrament Meeting entertainment at its best. 

        
Thank goodness I had my Mary Poppins bag ready to go.  To the bench in front of me, I passed a Pass-a-Long card of Jesus to quiet the kids during the Sacrament.  To the bench in back of me, I passed a picture to color, and to one of the families sitting next to me, I passes a small, edible for toddlers, board book about Nephi.  A Nursery-age girl from behind surprised me by slithering under the bench and popping up next to me to say hi. I'll change her name to protect the innocent, and her mother, to Hillary. I rummaged through  my bag and found something to keep her quiet. 
          During the musical number, I whispered to Hillary that they were singing about Joseph Smith.  I also told her that she could not slide under that bench again--she needed to go around.  Our conversation continued like this...

     Hillary:  "Whisper something in my ear."
     Me:  "You can't crawl under the bench, it's not reverent, you need to go around."
     Hillary: "Whisper something in my ear"  I finally figured out she said, "There's something IN my ear." 
     Me: "What is in your ear?"
     Hillary: "Candy!"
     Me:  "You don't have candy in your ear, silly!" 
     Hillary: "Yes, I do!  Look!"

             She proceed to stick her finger in her ear, pull out some earwax and eat it!   I completely lost it!  I was laughing so hard I was crying--when the speaker looked at me, he probably thought I was very moved by his talk.   Trying to reverently suppress laughter and tears is very difficult, especially during the closing hymn. 
           Although I didn't pack any candy in my Mary Poppins bag last Sunday, I got to see some. Thanks, Hillary, for the great Sunday entertainment!


Alma 8:28   "And it came to pass that the people did wax more gross in their iniquities." Alma, I know this had nothing to do with iniquity, but this wax was gross!